Making Your Home a Haven: Bedtime

Thank you all so much for joining in last week and sharing about your morning routines! :) This week's challenge is something I've needed to work on for quite some time...

Do you ever have trouble getting to bed on time? Surely I can't be the only one who frequently lacks discipline in this area.

Staying up too late (and usually for non-important reasons!) has a great impact on how well I function the next day... how patient I am... and whether or not I can read stories to my children without conking out!

I personally feel that going to bed on time is one of the most important aspects of making our homes a haven. It's also one that I frequently do not choose to do. I want to change that!

There are certainly times when it is a good thing to stay up "past our bedtime". But when we are regularly indulging the flesh while ignoring good sense, it can become a sinful trap that Satan uses to keep us from giving our very best to our family and home.

It's difficult to get everything done, isn't it? I know I've sure tried, and it just never works. Our bodies were made with a need to stop and rest. If we're like the majority of people, our bodies need 7+ hours of sleep each night. I could go off on a rant about all the health benefits of getting proper sleep, but you probably know it already. Sleep is good for us!

In order for me to get to bed on time, I have to cut out distractions. The computer is my biggest downfall in this area. Other distractions for me are books and cleaning.

If you, like me, desire to go to bed on time and get a reasonable amount of sleep, then we have to prepare, plan, and yes -- exercise some self-discipline and self-denial regarding what we'd rather do, knowing that we are making wise choices for our bodies and our families!

So my challenge to you today is to come up with a good bedtime for yourself. Your family, schedule, individual sleep needs, and spouse's preference will influence what time is best for you to be in bed, but decide on something and resolve to be in bed by that time every night this week!

You may have to work harder today, to be sure you'll meet that goal. Or maybe you'll be going to bed tonight with a few dirty dishes out and a computer that has stayed off for the evening. It's okay.

My bedtime needs to be 9:00pm. I'm gonna stick to it! Boy, won't Joshua be excited when he reads this post! If I stick to a bedtime it'll be about 10 times easier for him to follow it too. (And we both get up at 5!)

Do you want to join me in setting and sticking to a bedtime? Leave me a comment with your resolution, or post about your bedtime on your blog and come back here to link! (Please link directly to your post.)

Next week I'll ask how you all did with getting to bed on time, and I'll give a report about how well I did, too. ;)


Rats, you caught me. The last two weeks I've wanted to start going to bed every night at 10:30, here it is 1:10 a.m. and I'm still hanging out reading blogs, playing games and generally wasting time.

So starting tomorrow! I hope to be in bed by 10:30. it's a little harder when you're an insomniac, but hopefully I can make it happen!

this is a good challenge for me as I too believe that getting rest is vital when making a home a haven especially with children in tow...not only getting to bed at a decent time but also possibly having a short afternoon nap with the baby :o)

When you said " can become a sinful trap that satan uses to keep us from giving our very best to our family and home." Well, that hit the nail on the head for me! That is exactly what it is...I recently resolved to stick to a bedtime (about 3 weeks ago) and it has made a huge difference!

I haven't even gotten the hang of (okay, or tried to do) my morning routine yet! I'm going to start that today - thank goodness it's only 8AM!

Bedtime - I'd love to be in bed by 11PM. Maybe I can work my way to earlier than that eventually, but it's common for me to stay up until 1 or 2, so 11 would be a huge improvement! Plus I could get a full 8 hours before getting my daughter ready for school - and I won't be tempted to go back to bed after she's gone, or to nap with her when she gets home (unless I'm just really tired - I'm pregnant and cutting myself some slack).

Doing my routine this morning should help a ton with bedtime tonight :-)

Thanks for the motivation - I'm off the computer to get started!

Oh man, we need to do this. Just set a time in stone. The worst part, is that it takes a good hour after going upstairs and getting ready for bed before the baby is asleep. Which means if we go to bed at 10 and read scriptures it will be around 11 when the baby goes to sleep. And sometimes its nice to have adult we get to bed around midnight for a 5:30-6am wake up. Maybe this will also stop us from having those days when we go to bed at like 8:30 because we are exhausted. Thanks for the inspiration! Rebecca C

I completely agree and my downfall is books. I like to stay up because it is the only time I can enjoy the quiet and read peacefully. But you are right - I am indulging and I need to do what's best for my body. Thanks for the reminder and I'll do my best this week!

Life is too short for me to do housework when I could be snuggling with the Handsome Hubby :-)
Or maybe I am just too old to stay up that late LOL

I wrote about our routine on the Cold Noodles blog.

Katie in Ohio

Hi, Tammy! I too lack discipline in this area. I know that a better bedtime would help me to be more cheerful at 5 am, but it's soooo hard! I too am distracted by books, internet and cleaning. I haven't figured out how I'm going to fine-tune my schedule yet, but I will work on getting to bed at a decent time this week! Good luck to you! Alexis

As it turns out, today I am running on a lot less sleep than I need and I am definately having a worse day for it. My days definately go much better if I can get up before the kids, but I cant do that unless I go to bed on time.

THanks for the challenge. A reasonable bedtime for me will be 10oclock.

Lets see if I can do it.

This one hurts, Tammy, but only because it is so true and so challenging for me! Especially with my blog... I love to write late into the night.

You're right though. Time to stick to a bedtime. Mine is 10:00. I'll give it a go. Thanks for the encouragement!


Hi....hmm...we have a routine of slowing the kids down after dinner...then they read IN BED for about 30 minutes. This usually does the trick...and helps ME stay in a routine too. The big challenge is keeping my hubby on track. He is a night owl and likes late shows...but also likes company so even though I get up at 5 AM, I sometimes stay up way too late. Then, I put my foot down for a month or so.....

I really needed to hear this today! It's something which I know I ought to do, and in fact one of the hardest things to excercise self control in! I feel I really need to establish a proper bedtime during my single years, so that I am better prepared for making my home a haven when married. I will aim for 9pm - going to be bed, 9:30 lights out. Thanks for the inspiration!

~ Lover of Beauty

i i hope!... i will do better this week with meeting the challenge. last week was tough, but i know that you are on the right track with establishing consistency in morning and nightly routines. i just need to get on the ball :) thanks for your persistence!


yeah, recently I was reading to my kids in the morning during school and totally fell asleep while reading. They finally gave up and left. I can't believe I did that, but it was after a week of being up repeatedly each night with the kids, so I guess it makes some sense LOL, still I was embarrassed.

This hits home with me. I struggle with it daily. I struggle with getting up and getting to work at a decent hour (my boss is way to lenient and I take advantage of it). And that is due to not getting to bed at a decent hour. I say I am a true night owl and I thrive at night, but it hurts me during the day.

Hubby has to be up at 5:30--I don't have to be up till 7 a.m. and will be done with work before the baby is due, so won't have a set wake-up time for a few months. But you're right, if I go to bed earlier hubby will too, and that's good for both of us...

Me and hubby's plan is to go to read the Bible in bed at 10p so we can be asleep by 11p. He even has two alarm on his phone for this, but now we just ignore it as if it's just another sound like the Home Depot machines or fireworks from Disneyland. We've been going to bed at midnight or 1. >.< I shall try to get us back on schedule!

This has been such a huge area of struggle in my life for many years. I struggle with insomnia big time. A month ago I was averaging 4am bedtimes. But have worked it back to 2am. Every night I have to pray and mentally prepare myself to go to bed earlier. My kids go to bed and get up at 9pm/am so I need to be in bed by 12 so I am falling asleep by 1am. I know that is late but our whole day has always run later. We home school so we can make our own schedule plus in the NW half of the year we have late sun so it works out. I am going to work really hard to get to bed by 12 so I can be asleep earlier. Thanks so much for this post! I am really excited to read the other routine posts.

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